Mortality and Me

Long and Short Term Personal Goals I Hope To Accomplish Before I Die

When we think about our lives, we always say “I’ll see them next time” or “I’ll get to that tomorrow” we talk as though we’re guaranteed another day cause, of course, we assume without question we’ll wake up and be given another day but when you’re faced with mortality whether it be a close call with death from ourselves or our loved ones, well that’s when we really realize how mortal we really are. More importantly we see that our lives are really just large hourglasses slowly ticking down towards our passing. Or is it just moments we’re wasting not truly living or making a difference in the world?

In the wake of Chester Bennington’s passing (who ironically died on Chris Cornell’s Birthday) and my Dad’s most recent trip to the ER, I’ve been thinking about my legacy. What type of message will I leave behind when God calls me home? I hope I live long enough to see grandchildren (should I choose to have any children) or at the very least my friends’ grandchildren but nobody can make that promise. We realistically pass the day we’re going to die every year but few of us truly live our lives and treat others like we won’t always be around to mend the fences. That time is today.

Most of us spend most of our lives working or worrying about bills and we forget to truly live. Truly make a difference to someone else and not just people we KNOW I’m talking total strangers. Which is why I’ve come up with a long/short term goal list of six things I’d like to have personally accomplished before my time is up. I will probably add more to the list as I go on through life and God blesses me with more years and I will update this list as I go forward and grow as a person each and every year but for now here are the six things I hope to have accomplished by the time I passed away:

  1. Take More Time For Myself And Loved Ones -One thing I never want to regret is not spending enough time with my family (and I include my friends in this category cause my friends are the family I choose) and too much time at work. Life is made of memories with people that matter to us and the one thing I learned from my stint as a teenager working at a nursing home was listening to the residents talk about how they didn’t get to spend enough time with the people they love. I don’t want this to be me, waiting for a daughter or son that never comes because I didn’t spend enough time with them. People worry so much about the future and not enough about the here and now. Appreciate and spend time with the people you love because you may never get an opportunity again one day. I want to be able to take time away from work and responsibility to spend time with my loved ones without feeling guilt about it. I mean obviously jobs and bills getting paid are important, however, shouldn’t the time we take with our love ones be just as important if not more? A life goal of mine is to make sure that I put my foot down and take the time I know that I deserve to create memories with the people I love.
  2. Love Myself– There’s a large epidemic of people that either love themselves too much or not enough at all. As you’ve all learned from my past posts I have my demons many of which I fight with everyday to keep my head above water. My self esteem is a child’s yo-to ranging from fabulous to failing, which is sad because I know I’m a beautiful person deep down. People tell me this all the time. When my time is up I hope to can say that I’ve fully and truly embraced and loved myself to my fullest potential because I’m worth it.
  3. Get A Tattoo- This might sound counterproductive to number two on my list BUT I’d love to get a tattoo in my Grammy’s handwriting that says ‘Love + Prayers’. Losing my Grammy in 2011 was very hard on me and to this day I really feel as though a part of me died when she did, getting this tattoo would be my way of keeping her with me, always.
  4. Visit Ireland and Greece- I’d like to explore my Irish heritage which I take so much pride in. This was the place my ancestors including my Grammy called home at one point and I’d really love to see it for myself one day. I want to see Greece because although I’m not Greek their culture and customs fascinate me to no end. I have this odd feeling like I need to go there in my life plus my Pop always wanted to go there before his life was cut short at age 29 (due to a brain aneurism). I’d like to go there and bring back a Greek flag to place at his resting place so, in a way, he did get to go to Greece with me.
  5. Done A Million Random Acts of Kindness- Love your neighbor as you love yourself. It’s the golden rule, by the time my time on Earth is done I want to have done a million randomly kind things for total strangers.
  6. Make a REAL difference in the world- by the time my time is done I hope and pray I’ve made a positive impact on this world. That I’ve changed it for the better and inspired people through my words and actions.

That’s all I’ve got for now, but I’ll leave you with a quote:

Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for by this some have entertained angels without knowing it. – Hebrews 13:2

Are you doing that each day?

Love you. Mean it.


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